Carroll Hospice
Embracing Hospice Care

From the Spring 2014 DASH newsletter

When presented with the idea of hospice care, Stanwood “Stan” Myers was resistant at first. Conversations with his doctors had informed the Mount Airy resident that nothing more could medically be done for his chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, and his health was in a steady decline.

However, his initial resistance to hospice care wasn’t so much about rejecting the care and support that hospice could provide. It was about what would happen to his wife of 57 years, Dorothy “Dottie” Myers. “Something my father said stuck with me,” remembers son Doug Myers. “He said ‘I’m not afraid of dying.’ His only concern was what would happen to my mother. She kept him going.”

In July 2013, once Stan was reassured that Dottie would be cared for and it was ok for him to let go, he was ready for hospice care. “The hospice staff really took over all the responsibilities—communicating with the physicians, taking care of the medications and providing social support for my parents,” says Doug.

Stan received hospice care at home for two weeks, then his hospice nurse asked the family to consider moving him to Dove House, Carroll Hospice’s inpatient facility, for more advanced symptom management that could not be done at his home. “A few days prior to going to Dove House, my father physically started to need a lot of support, the type of support that my mother could not provide on her own. They could do a much better job of making him comfortable at Dove House,” says Doug.

At Dove House, the family gathered around Stan. “Our family loves music, and we spent much of the time singing favorite songs and hymns, being there with him and saying goodbye,” Doug remembers. Although Stan was unconscious, the staff told the family that he knew they were there for him.

He passed away on August 16, 2013—36 hours after arriving at Dove House. The Myers family was thankful for the support of the hospice team during such a difficult and emotional time. “Hospice was a huge blessing for our family. I am very grateful for the hospice staff who could handle the things our family didn’t have the experience to deal with,” Doug says. “They let us just be there for him and not have to worry about anything else.”

At right: Doug Myers visits weekly with his mother, Dottie, at Sun Valley Assisted Living in Taylorsville. Knowing that their father wanted to make sure their mother was comfortable, happy and properly cared for, the family turned to Sun Valley to provide that expert assisted living and daily companionship she needs.

View the entire Spring 2014 DASH newsletter here.